Date Night Thoughts

I feel like most of us have an expectation as to what a date night would look like. Whether that be a small picnic, a movie night, a night in with a home cooked meal, or going out to a concert or an event. Knowing that sometimes the expectation and the reality will not be the same is a good thing. I found that expectations in a relationship whether that be your first date, boyfriend/girlfriend, or husband/wife is not a good thing. I know that for us girls at least we take a lot of time into getting ready and sometimes it means that we expect a certain type of date. Just as we wouldn't expect our significant other to know what we are thinking about we can't expect them to know what sort of date night we were expecting. This means that we just go along with it, I found at least that eliminating expectations and just enjoying the moment that I was in at that given moment made me much more happier. 

 

Being in the moment makes you realize how much you love the person that you are in front of. It makes you look at them, it makes you enjoy them, it makes you wonder about them.. their thoughts, their emotions. It makes your date a butterfly worthy date. 

Now what I mean by a butterfly worthy date is that you will feel like you did when you guys were chasing each other if you have been together for a longer time. If you haven't then a lot of moments will give you that butterfly feeling when you learn something new that inspires you and allows you to know the person in a deeper way than any other person. 

Dates, first dates, are kind of a really weird concept for me. Here are two strangers
"giving it a go" quite literally to see if they like each other. What makes this incredibly melancholy for me is that the motive behind that date may be different for everybody. On one hand the person could be soo looking forward to the moment where as the other person is just being spontaneous. Any who, the reason behind that date can be so different, yet so similar. Deep down the reason that any of us go on dates is to find true love. Love that will move us, tear us, yet fulfill us in a way that we had never experienced before. That feeling of love or being loved is something that each of chase. Even after we have found the one or been on the first date. 

Sometimes, your first love has to be yourself. I know it sounds cliche, but buy yourself the flowers. Be your own first love before you look to fill a void that no one but yourself can fill. 

Love to chase, love to be loved, simply love. 

Xoxo, 

Ivon Auriemma